No one understands. Yes, I am going to go into major emo bullshit/bitching. Well, maybe not major. Depends on the standard. Evanescence? Hell no. Even I can't top their shit.
Parents like to give advice. Fine, I'll stop picking on them. Adults like to give advice. There, I'm not picking on them now. I'm scolding the collective. Sometimes, we don't need advice. We don't want a pep talk. Sometimes a kid just wants to be left alone to feel like crap. Knowing that we could have pulled it off better really isn't the best thing to hear when you're feeling pissed off about something.
People are bastards. Everyone likes to scoff at the kid who gets high marks when he or she complains that he could have gotten more. People get pissed off when the rich ass complains of not having enough. Maybe rightly so. These people have been given stuff, so why complain?
That's the outsider talking.
Think about something you're good at. Do you like to be content at where you are? Hell no. Do you stop learning because you're top of your age group? Do you stop learning when you're top of the age group above the group you're supposed to be at? Does an athlete just one day decide not to run? (or jump or sprint or swim?) Does the richest man stop making money? Do the holiest of people just one day drop everything and say: "God, I think I've done enough."
Hell no.
Stop bitching when a gifted person is unhappy with their achievement. They have a God-given right to feel pissed if they think they could have done more. You have a God-given right to feel pissed if you think you could have done more with whatever the hell it is you're good at.
Stop being a selfish asshole. Not everything is about you. They are not comparing themselves to you. Why the hell should they? Are you the God-of-all-who-can-do-no-wrong-and-is-perfect-at-everything? No, you're not, amazing as it sounds. They have what they're good at, you have what you're good at. If they just happen to do ten times more in a certain area than you ever could and still want to bitch about how they could have done even more, so what? That doesn't reflect badly on you. It's their problem. Shame on them for not doing their best. It's not your problem, it's nothing to do with you, it doesn't make you any less of a person if they happen to do things better than you. Let them have their bitch-fit. For some people, passing is enough. For some, getting more than 75% is passing. There are those who think it amazing if they can push themselves to run half a click. There are those who run 10 without breaking a sweat. Some people understand stage production, some people do higher math. A guy complaining about that one question if not for which he could have gotten 100% might not be trying to make you feel bad. For all you know, he might honestly be scolding himself. And why not? If there is a 100% worth then a 100% should be possible. And if he can do it, well, power to him. Let him have his cry. Maybe to him 99% just isn't good enough. Maybe he was careless. Maybe he actually isn't trying to be a snob.
Stop putting yourself there. Stop comparing yourself to others. Stop thinking about yourself all the damn time. A guy's allowed to beat himself up for not putting in all he's got, and by telling him to shut up and be happy for what he's got, what message are you sending?
"It's ok to slack. It's ok to be second best. It's ok not to do your best. Go ahead. Don't go achieving what you really can. Be average. Be run-of-the-mill. Be garden veriety. Be normal. Don't excel. Don't exceed. Don't be someone really special with an amazing gift that no one else has. Don't excel in the one thing that you can do better than everyone else."
Hope you understand. Understand that it doesn't concern you. Understand that I'm not being proud. Understand that sometimes, I don't want your advice. Really think you know what to do in my case? What makes you so sure?
